It's ok to cry

Many of us grow up getting used to holding it all together. We put on a brave face, maybe because we had responsibility for others and needed to be strong for them. Maybe we judged ourselves harshly for and feel weak when we show emotions. We push on, holding it in, carrying our head high....until it gets too much .

For some people theres something I call a tear block. For whatever reason they've closed that part of themselves off. Maybe they were in a job or position in life where if they cried or got caught up in their emotions it could mean someone got hurt or they'd lose their control.

For others maybe they cry so much that it's all they can do. Waves of tears at any turn of events, overwhelm, fears, triggers, worry, or something else. Whatever the case may be crying becomes an immediate response to every situation.

It is ok to cry.

It doesnt make you weak.

In fact, it's actually a sign of your body taking care of you and helping you express emotions.

When we repress too much even if we can remain stoic, that emotion is energy, and it has to go somewhere. When energy and emotions get repressed it leads to developing chronic conditions which then can lead to disease and weight changes, inflammation in the body, and much more.

Forgot what society has taught us about crying. Forget about roles we play, what you've been told about it, or how people have treated you when you cried. Cry anyway. Healthy ways that we process our emotions are sacred. And crying is just that. It's sacred.

Even science has uncovered all the positive effects crying has for us, our tears holding chemicals in them that can relieve pain and help calm our body. It helps with release and stress relief.

It's ok to cry because you're stressed, tired, sad, or maybe you cry with tears of joy or witnessing something beautiful. Don't apologize to people for crying. Its ok to explain sometimes and even step aside to process in order to respect others but you don't need to feel sorry for it. And you're not crazy for crying either.

We have made crying and feeling emotions so taboo in our world and I dont know about you but i'm pretty tired of it and annoyed. We can't keep trying to hold it all together and pretending we are ok when we aren't. You aren't weak for feeling or letting the tears flow. You won't lose control just because you feel something.

So what if you feel frustrated with crying? Like ok...I cry and then what...it doesn't change anything. And to that I say, yes it does. It changes you. It helps you process. It helps you release what is holding you back. When you finally give this part of yourself love, permission, acknowledgment, it can finally help you release what you're carrying so you actually have room for joy. You don't have to cry in order to do that but getting angry at yourself or your situation for crying also doesn't help either. Allow yourself to process what comes up, and even if it is frustration before tears, let that guide you toward what you've been needing. Maybe a change of scenery, a decision, or finally choosing to take care of yourself.

You've been holding on to so much and it's time to finally start processing it. Tears will help guide you there. And what comes after is your choice and what you decide, to finally offer compassion and love to yourself. To forgive. To face what's been ignored. To finally feel everything again. It will be worth it to work through it even if it's hard at first.

So, if you needed some kind of reminder today, just let go. Don't try to hold it all in. Your tears are beautiful and they're there for a reason. Love that part of yourself that grieves, aches, and loves so much. Its your strength.

With much love ❤️

-Angela Becker